So the President’s Club has closed after reports of hostesses being groped, and propositioned by rich powerful businessmen. This was revealed by two undercover reporters from the Financial Times.
In the post Weinstein era more and more industries are coming out & recognising men abuse women physically, sexually and financially.
Hostess Grope

In this era of patriarchy where men use power to subjugate women, it is difficult to look at mens’ sexuality in an undistorted way. It seems that a large majority of hetrosexual men’s desire, want, or instinct is to try and have sex with as many women as they can. Men use status, money and power to attempt to do this.
Is this selfishness, greed, or an inbuilt imprint to procreate?

At this time the predominant norm is that hetrosexual men and women have couple relationships which children can be born into to create family units. There are issues of fidelity and trust which both sides subscribe to excluding anyone else from the partnership. Monogamy. There are many cultural norms to support monogamy, so it remains undisputed socially. But more critically it is an internal value deeply stamped into our psyche.

So on the one hand this male behaviour is selfish and greedy. Men should be able to control their urges. Society expects men to behave to the norms of Monogamy.

On the other hand Monogamy doesn’t appear to contain male behaviour. Mens’ behaviour must be repressed. Mens’ clubs exist where women are made available to men. The use of prostitutes and the sex industry is rife, and the rise(?) of human trafficking of women and men increases.

But even to start to have debates around the topic of male & female sexuality seems threatening and to undermine the basic building block of society: the family. Perhaps we could start to admit however civilised and technologically advanced we are: we still have very primitive brains, which determine primitive behaviour.
Hostess Grope

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