Peer rejection was felt the most keenly, then academic and romantic rejection. Rejection is most felt in poverty, and lower economic status: An implicit constant message of exclusion. The game of economic status can never be won. There is always someone abobe and below you. Status is a moving target where success can always be seen as failiure.
“What is identity but the slow, lifelong accretion of gazes: us looking at ourselves being looked at by others?”
The more rejection, the more social exclusion and social pain is felt. The scientists were surprised when a person is subjected to social exclusion they become more aggressive and care less about other people. In fact they stopped feeling upset and start to feel numb.