44. Dying Order

Under a week to go until a second election this year, the electorate is being tested. A more positive spin on the political scene is that we are coming to the end. The smell of decay abounds.
Dying Order. 

First started by Reagan and Thatcher Neo Liberalism was a dismantling of the state, and a push to self-reliance and the rise of the entrepreneur. With austerity this has extended to all parts of life, with the denial that it is all about debt. Paying back for past spending. 
 
Brexit looms. With no constitution in place. Big decisions being made for the UK by party political issues. The Extinction Rebellion generation is gathering momentum with increased awareness around climate change, and the fragility of the planet. More people are not eating meat. Challenging habits of a lifetime.
There is change in the air.

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43. Prince Image

In 1981 Prince supported the Rolling Stone’s tour for two nights. His ambivalent sexuality compared to the rock hetrosexuaity of the Stones didn’t go down well, and he was booed off stage. He was coaxed back for a second night, and the audience was ready.
Again he was booed off stage with food and vegetables. Never again.

His rebellion against sexual mores, and religious values were controversial. He abandoned any traditional truths of being black or male. He blurred the boundaries including his own early life.

At his peak Prince was one of the biggest manistream stars of his day without diluting his blackness. Quite a feat. Then he slid into his own cliche. Staying safe feeding of past glories. He changed his name which removed his audience further from the glory days.

He was one of the first pop stars to create his own world in Paisley Park. Like Neverland it became a refuge, a bunker where he was in control of his world. A good idea. Real life is replaced by a Boys’ Own World.

He preferred younger women, who didn’t argue with him. He could never be seen to be vulnerable. The polished presentation and image took him over. Who was he underneath might never be known. Perhaps ordinary and dull. Not compatible with the image.

His drug use was hidden but people knew it was going on. After Purple Rain he got everything he wanted and didn’t like it. Five days before his death he bought music by Joni Mitchell and Stevie Wonder. Listening to the past. He went back to playing his old tunes to small audiences on his own.

Prince died alone in Paisley Park. Even he couldn’t keep reality out. Maybe he just thought he could.

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42. Gary Rhodes 1960-2019

 Gary Rhodes chef, restauranteur, and the first to champion British Food in the modern era, when Brtiish Food had little reputation. Gastro pubs, Jamie, Heston, & Gordon all owe a debt to him and wouldn’t have flourished without him.

Gary was proudest of reinventing the British Classic Bread and Butter Pudding. Typical of him. Everyday British fare with a twist. He disliked the cheekie chappie spikey haired image and wanted the food to speak for itself.

Involved in a near death accident as a teenager, the culinary world was lucky to have him!

Gary Rhodes 1960-2019

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Gary Rhodes chef, restauranteur, and the first to champion British Food in the modern era, when Brtiish Food had little reputation. Gastro pubs, Jamie, Heston, & Gordon all owe a debt to him and wouldn’t have flourished without him.

Gary was proudest of reinventing the British Classic Bread and Butter Pudding. Typical of him. Everyday British fare with a twist. He disliked the cheekie chappie spikey haired image and wanted the food to speak for itself.

Involved in a near death accident as a teenager, the culinary world was lucky to have him!

Gary Rhodes 1960-2019

 

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41. Creepy Men

Women are more likely than men to experience sexual threat or violence, so are more likely to make  judgements like creepy men. We are told to trust ourselves but our intuition is more likely to keep us safe in terms of social boundaries rather than physical safety.

Creepiness was judged to be about men who who were sexually interested, and behaved differently outside the usual social norms. So intuition can exclude men signalling social difference rather than safety. The disabled and homeless are more likey to be judged as creepy. 

The issue of consent is challenging. Situations can be creepy but legal and with consent. Does this argument fail to take into account the issue of power? The power of money, fame and priviledge. We are in a time of the exposure of creeps (social judgement or safety alert?) These men are socially accepted, part of the establishment, and priviledged.

They are judged to be guilty on the strength of the number of allegations against them. Reputations fall easily, along with marketing endorsements and charity sponsors.
How to stay safe from creepy men?

 

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40. Tidy Bedrooms

Conservatives have tidy bedrooms with laundry baskets. Liberals have world music cds and books on travel. Like Mud Rooms

Is there a link between personality and political leanings? Apparently openess is the biggest indicator. More openess to new experiences means you are more liberal. Concientiousness and order mean you are more conservative.

People migrate towards each others characteristics: particularly minorities. Urban environments being more accepting of difference. Londoners are more liberal and open: but less agreeable and concientious but more neurotic. Humans are attracted by similarity. People live in clusters.

People who voted for Brexit came from less open areas of the country. Perhaps there is a reason for people being less open: Border areas historically under threat, or areas where natural diseases or disasters occured. Being less open and you might survive.

If you forget that everything has to be proved: it seems common sense that there is a relationship between politics and personality. What is the surprise? Is the empirical world so rigid that nothing can be guessed or suggested?
Politics are values: and values are personal. What’s the big deal?
Tidy Bedrooms 

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39. How to Fire Your Daughter

Kyle is a Texan Father who runs his own insurance company. He wants to retire and sell the business. But his daughter works in the company. Kyle thinks that she isn’t capable. She is good at selling insurance but is not a detail person.
How to Fire Your Daughter

They have a challenging relationship. Kyle expects his daughter to work in the same way as him. Ballpoint pen positioned at the right angle on his desk. He is a people pleaser. She is not.
Kyle has another employee who has the same skills as him. He would like to sell the business to.

Kyle has worked hard to give his daughter everything. This is one of the conflicts between parents who have worked for wealth, and their children who are given wealth. The facilitator tells Kyle that successful family businesses force the potential child owners to work for at least two years in another company. To gain experience in the real (non family) business world.

Kyle has avoided difficult conversations with his daughter so not to upset her. And himself. He hasn’t asked her what she wants, and how he can help her to get it. The elephant in the room. Large and cumbersome but not talked about.

His expectation is that she is his daughter and that she should be like him. If she is not like him then there can be no negotiation between the two positions. The daughter he expects and the daughter he has. Consumers know the product they are buying might not be what they asked for, but expect it to be. Like children?

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38. Silo Parenting

Silo Parenting captures the idea that nuclear families take all the stress of parenting without any kind of help and support. The product of Weird  (Western Economic Industrial Rich Democratic) Countries where families move around for work breaking the bonds of family and community.

In this example of Zambian Mothers – parents encourage the baby to be carried around by other people or helpers. This allows the baby to socialise and be comfortable with other people with easy transition.

This is unusual in industrial economies. Weird Countries encourage their populations to own things for sole use. This encourages families unintentionally, to have children to themselves. Families deserve the sole attention of their creation. It is their concept. They want the control.

Perhaps it is also the narcissism of the industrial world. We are at the centre of our individualistic lives. Parents want children to be re-incarnations of themselves. So control over care means control and influence over how children grow up and what sort of adults they are going to be.
Hopefully to be like the parents?

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37. Laziness

Make Laziness work for you!
Neo Liberalism would have us believe that Laziness produces failure and poverty.
In effect if you are poor you are lazy. Christianity encourages busyness & industry to
keep society going.    

Yet to be lazy is to conserve energy for the next task. For primitive people to rest before the next hunt or escape from death. With survival taken care of, laziness becomes problematic.

Laziness is what we want to avoid yet idleness (to do nothing) is what we proclaim to want. But whenever an empty period of time comes up we are desperate to fill it. As we work for others doing things we don’t want to do, laziness is an expression of a lack of determinism to control our own lives. We need to distract ourselves from the futility of modern existence where we are not at the centre of much of what we have to do.

Being idle risks being bored. Boredom covers a sense of challenging feelings around how we put meaning to our lives. Any uncomfortable feelings have to be covered with anything. Anything at all.

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36. Ginger Baker 1939-2019

Another musician dies. Ginger Baker drummer with Cream created a new style of drumming
most famous in the super group Cream.

Ginger became a keen cyclist in his teens growing strong leg muscles which gave him the ability to play his signature style of the double bass drums. He was a natural talent. Ginger got behind a band’s drum kit and simply played the drums – blowing the own band’s drummer away. As a result he was always forthright maverick in his uniqueness.

He played in many jazz bands in the early 60s and always thought of himself as a jazz drummer. In 1966 he formed the super group band Cream, with Jack Bruce and Eric Clapton. Lauded by fellow drummers but largely ignored by the music listening public.

This documentary shows Ginger as a cantankerous old man with not a lot of good to say about anyone in the music business. But he was a man of wide eclectic interests (including polo) and very much his own man.
Ginger Baker 1939-2019

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35. Ric Ocasek 1944-2019

Ric Ocasek of the band The Cars merged new wave guitars and synthesiser to brilliant effect.  
Rythm guitarist and songwriter for the band he created songs of love and yearning.
Having 3 wives with two sons each – he must have had lots of life love experience to draw on.

He wrote the tunes and the words. His voice was simple and clear: good for radio. Car stereos loved him. He captured something of romance and pain. As a result Luck, and Chance played out in his words. All to the beat of driving and moving on.

“Let’s Go”
She’s driving away
With the dim lights on
And she’s making a play
She can’t go wrong

She never waits too long
She’s winding them down
On her clock machine
And she won’t give up
‘Cause she’s seventeen
She’s a frozen fire
She’s my one desire
And I don’t want to hold her down
Don’t want to break her crown

When she says”Let’s go”
I like the nightlife baby
She says
I like the nightlife baby
She says “Let’s go”

She’s laughing inside
‘Cause they can’t refuse
She’s so beautiful now
She doesn’t wear her shoes
She never likes to choose

She’s got wonderful eyes
And a risque mouth
And when I ask her before
She said she’s holding out
She’s a frozen fire
She’s my one desire
And I don’t want to hold her down
Don’t want to break her crown

When she says “Let’s go”
I like the nightlife baby
She says
I like the nightlife baby
She says “Let’s go”

Ooh
I like the nightlife baby
She says
I like the nightlife baby
She says “Let’s go”

Ric Ocasek 1944-2019

 

 

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