Author Archives: North London Counsellor Blog

Silence in the therapy room is not in fashion at the moment. Strategies, courses, reading, exercises & self help is what the profession promotes. Rather than wait for something to emerge from a quiet silence of Free Association: doing is … Continue reading →

John 22yrs old came to his first session with his mother. After an explanation that it would be better for him to attend the sessions without her: she went to the shops and picked him up at the end of … Continue reading →

Creative Indifference is a term in Gestalt Therapy to describe a state of unbiased awareness. Creative can mean the doing of something artistic: that comes from the heart not the head. Here it means a familiarity: a yearning for emotional … Continue reading →

“I think therapy is making me depressed” Gia announced. Gia’s relationship has drifted away, and she is left abandoned, alone. Depressed. Whatever is thought about Klein and her depressive position there is a period of therapy usually about 18 months … Continue reading →

The Democrats have lost again. Twice. For similar reasons.   They missed: blinded by their own light. In 2016 they missed the Deplorables. In 2024 the Working Class feeling poor. Their outlook of fairness, reasonableness, with no discernable policies was projected … Continue reading →

Apparently there are enough empty houses in the UK to satisfy the population without building anymore. Many houses are empty because families cannot let go of them. They have sentimental value. They were brought up there, or thier mother died … Continue reading →

With trends like OK Boomer and Millennial Sensitivity the clashes between the generations continue. As they always have. Generational characteristics form us particularly around our peer group. They are an intrinsic part of our early experience. We remain still but … Continue reading →

Play is an important part of child development. Play initiates a curiousity and enjoyment. A conerstone of a good therapy is the ability of the person to be playfully curious about themselves. And notice. To have learnt to play in … Continue reading →

Gia looked up and said ” … but I really love the guy” Love or Longing? We all think we know what we mean when we hear the word love in a conversation. There is a general consensus what we … Continue reading →