Author Archives: North London Counsellor Blog

Therapy pays a lot of attention to endings. At ending we are an emphasised version of our emotional selves. Endings show how we protect ourselves from the pain of ending. Where our culture pays little attention to endings. An ideal … Continue reading →

Each generation has its own characteristics and social culture. The character of each generation influences the people inhabiting that generation:    The Silent Generation – Silence! Boomers – Thrifty Gen X – Independence Millenials – Socially Concious Gen Z – Authenticity Each … Continue reading →

Nachträglichkeit, Apres-coup, Afterwardsness a Freudian term used to describe a repressed trauma which replays  itself in the future. A deferred action from childhood into aduthood. The trauma gets pushed down: but bubbles away in the heat of unconscious atrophy: ready … Continue reading →

Whenever Gene Hackman came on screen you relaxed into knowing his role or this part of the film was going to be great. And so it was. The ease and minimalism belied a complexity of presence and feeling that you … Continue reading →

Ever feel something is not quite right? Or perhaps you feel something is wrong but nobody else notices? You’re right. It’s not you. Hypernormalisation is the idea that something is going on while everyone around you is either unaware or … Continue reading →

The 45 day Maha Kumbh Mela, aka Great Pitcher Festival will attract over 400 million people. For many it is a once in a lifetime event happening every 12 years. The aim is to bathe in the sacred waters to … Continue reading →

John began by telling me that he didn’t want to marry his fiancee. “I love my girlfriend, we’ve been together for three years. Some days getting married seems like the best. Other days I cannot bear to think about it.” … Continue reading →

Sybil Phoenix fostered many children in Lewisham. Against the racism in the UK she managed to survive the odds and rescue children who had no families to go to. The infinte visceral hatred she had to endure from the community … Continue reading →

Silence in the therapy room is not in fashion at the moment. Strategies, courses, reading, exercises & self help is what the profession promotes. Rather than wait for something to emerge from a quiet silence of Free Association: doing is … Continue reading →

John 22yrs old came to his first session with his mother. After an explanation that it would be better for him to attend the sessions without her: she went to the shops and picked him up at the end of … Continue reading →