Author Archives: North London Counsellor Blog

Play is an important part of child development. Play initiates a curiousity and enjoyment. A conerstone of a good therapy is the ability of the person to be playfully curious about themselves. And notice. To have learnt to play in … Continue reading →

Gia looked up and said ” … but I really love the guy” Love or Longing? We all think we know what we mean when we hear the word love in a conversation. There is a general consensus what we … Continue reading →

Some therapists don’t like Bowlby’s traditional Stages of Attachment Theory. It can be over simple and doesn’t capture the complexity of the pre-verbal repeating experience. It is a helpful start to understanding transference and is a neat & easy to … Continue reading →

Maslow travelled to study the social dynamics of the Blackfoot Tribe in the summer of 1938. Practitoners are familiar with Maslow’s Heirarchy of Needs as a way of seeing people in relationship to their lives. In fact the study reverses … Continue reading →

In the social media age words become more than their meaning. Triggered is one of these words. It seems to mean one someone else doing or saying something setting off a chain of emotions inside us. Depending on the user … Continue reading →

Watching Labi Siffre on Top of the Pops was a particular experience. He seemed out of time and place. Himself, raw and vulnerable. It was almost too much in contrast to the other acts and the medium of television. Black … Continue reading →

He turned to me and said, ‘I haven’t written a song in three years.’ ‘Why? ’I said, ‘What’s wrong?’ He made a vague circling gesture with his hand taking in both of us, the swimming pool, the high hedge, the … Continue reading →

Steve Albini was an uncompomising individual. He screwed the outside world, impinging himself on the social.      He worked as a music producer with the Pixies, Breeders, PJ Harvey, Nirvana. He was proper punk. He wasn’t interested in money or fame. … Continue reading →

Like many professions when you witness a group together they take on powerful characteristics.  Therapists are similar – perhaps like artists, musicians, authors the world is seen as fluid, full of colour, shapes, impressions. Led by the irrational, feelings, & … Continue reading →