In the first session Amal asked me what can I do for him: “I need some tools to keep my energy up. I want to keep my focus like I used to be able to when I was younger” I asked him how we might do this?
He said i would know.

Amal is addicted to Super Amal: the version of himself which is optimised, & idealised. Amal is running to Super Amal. The word addiction is usually applied to drugs & alcohol. But demonstrates in a broader meaning to an addiction to avoiding or numbing the self.

In the rational world Amal is running on the fuel of ambition to his best most efficient self. In the psyche world running from his own Self. We are addicted to behaviours that keep us away from ourselves. These can include extreme versions of sport, working, studying, dating, eating, sleeping and ………

The addiction is the solution to avoidance of the self
At times therapy is a reframing of the view of ourselves. If we can switch to thinking about the behaviours that we don’t want as a window into how we work. Those behaviours are our life. Giving them ligitimacy – dissipates the hot energy that fuels the numbing avoidance of the Self

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